You are exhausted. You've been exhausted all day. And then the moment you finally lie down, your body decides it's time to keep watch. If that's familiar, please hear this first: you are not bad at sleeping, and this is not a failure of willpower. Your nervous system learned to stay alert for very good reasons. Let me explain what I mean. I'm …
Childhood Trauma
It’s Not a Personality Flaw: Why Shame Is at the Heart of Your Trauma Recovery
A 2024 study found that shame and emotion dysregulation together account for 59% of PTSD symptoms. Take a second and let that number land. Don’t rush past it. Fifty-nine percent. That means shame isn’t just a side effect of your trauma. It isn't a "bonus" symptom you have to deal with on the side. It is one of the main events. And yet, …
Navigating the Feelings of Healing from Trauma: What Therapists Don’t Know
Explore the complexities of feelings that come with trauma and learn how to manage them effectively. As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I often encounter individuals who experience unexpected and seemingly unmanageable feelings - even when everything seems perfect in their relationships. Today, I want to delve into this phenomenon and provide …
How to Change Yourself for the Better in a Relationship (For Trauma Survivors)
This post is part of my guide on how to heal from past relationship trauma. Like it or not when you’ve found a loving, safe relationship after surviving childhood trauma or an abusive adult relationship, it doesn’t matter how safe and loving your relationship is, your trauma brain isn’t going to rest without some active intervention from …
